Second Chances: Returning To Yourself

What if a second chance isn't about becoming someone new?

What if it's about remembering who you've always been?

In this heartfelt episode of Two Mystic Mamas, Krystyn and Rachael meet virtually to explore what it really means to reinvent your life...not through performance, hustle, or chasing a version of success that was never yours to begin with, but by returning to your own frequency.

Together, they share personal stories of growth, change, uncertainty, and the quiet courage it takes to honor yourself when life asks you to evolve. This conversation isn't about burning your life down and starting over. It's about listening to the whispers beneath the noise. Remembering what lights you up. Reconnecting with your intuition. And giving yourself permission to choose alignment over expectation.

Whether you're navigating a major life transition, feeling the pull toward something more, or simply sensing that the version of you you've outgrown no longer fits, this episode offers gentle guidance and honest reflection for the journey.

Because growth isn't always loud.

Sometimes it's a homecoming.

Join us as we explore second chances, soul-led reinvention, and the magic that happens when you stop asking who you should be and start remembering who you are.

Transcript

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Good morning. Good morning, honey. You seem a little bit like a teddy bear this morning, just kind of warm and cozy, but not really awake. Well, let's see. I've had a couple rough nights of sleep. And I am doing my best to take rest breaks and honor my body through it. Yeah. But it's been a tough week for my body. Worse than the last like many, many months. So I'm hoping it's just like get it out of its system and then I'll be good for like another six to nine to twelve months until I have some weird hormonal spike or whatever's happening. I think it's really unfair that we have to deal with this bullshit on a regular basis. It's uh listen, it's the full moon, and I'm like, okay, I am literally shedding all this old stuff and it's rebirth. Yeah. Which also goes in line with what we're talking about today, which is relaunching your life, right? Yes. So it's fitting. We should welcome people. Yes, I was just gonna say let's welcome, and then we'll get into the topic of the day. Welcome to Mystic Mamas. We're talking today about relaunching your life, right? And how to do it one day at a time and how to navigate that and how you listen to your intuition. And you know, I would say this this isn't for everybody. Like, we're not telling people to go relaunch their lives. This is more of a topic of our origin stories too, like how we relaunched our lives throughout our own experiences, and then how people can, if they're feeling that pull and that tug, how they can also emulate that um steps that they can take when it comes up. Well, I think there are moments in life when the life that you've been living stops feeling like yours. And that is the moment that that veil kind of thins, the curtain pulls back for you, and you can't unsee it. Right. Once that facade drops, you can't see it. And I just want to tell people that are listening that if you are feeling that way, you are not lost. You are between versions of yourself, and it's exactly what you're supposed to be doing. Yeah. You have to feel this in order to be able to feel something different in the future. Correct. I was just gonna say, you're not lost, but you might feel lost. Well, and it's relaunching or reinvention isn't about, isn't it performative. Oh. It is it is about returning to your own frequency and honoring your frequency. It's like a little spell that you cast on yourself where you are remembering who you are. You're remembering what feels good in your mind, in your body, and in your soul. And for some listeners, this might be more of like an epiphany type feeling. They're not revisiting something from maybe like this actual human experience, but something happens that triggers something in them where they are no longer the same person. Well, it's like you're coming back online. You've been, you've lost your internet connection, and then you kind of come back online and you're like, oh, this is totally this is a brand new kind of internet connection. This feels better. This is 5G. Yeah. What do you mean? Yes. Like a BIOS. Yeah. I feel like we both have reinvention stories for sure. Um, do you want to touch on yours at a high level? And it happens one day at a time. So it's not like well, that's right. I feel like I am relaunching myself every day, especially in the space that I'm in right now, right? I am in a space where I have gone through a major life shift in my last 20 years, as most of us have, astrologically speaking, and just with the passage of time, naturally our life changes a lot in 20 years. If your life has not changed at all in the past 20 years, I would implore you to look a little closer. I don't even think that's possible. And I mean, for some people it is though, they just want to stay where they're at because it's comfortable. If you're literally just doing the same routine at the same job, not experiencing anything new, those are not our people, but they do exist. Yeah. Yeah. But for me, it is when you're young and you think of resetting, you don't even know the terminology yet. You just know that every time that Monday comes along, that every time New Year's comes along, that every time that you lose a job or there's a family crisis or there's a collapse of system of some kind, that's when you have permission to do something different. I think that I spent a lot of time waiting for those moments and not realizing that every single moment, every single day is an opportunity for me to step more fully into my own aliveness, into my own joy, into my own becoming, and really coming home to like what feels good for my soul. And yes, on a high level, that looked like separating myself from toxic people, separating myself from family, going through a divorce, having a child, getting remarried, all of those things also happened. But the alchemy was happening on a very, very small level for me every single day. Those were external things that were happening simultaneously because I was becoming more into who I am. And those things needed to change, right? I had to outgrow and grow into the person, the mom, the wife, the friend that I am now. Yeah, they're building blocks. I was listening to something earlier too, and it it's been coming up for me this year in general, from the beginning of the year, which is this theme of self-abandonment. It's not lost on me that it keeps coming up. Right. And I feel like we both have this in that we have been known to get into a comfortable space of abandoning ourselves for the benefit of others. And for me, I didn't know the term self-abandonment until this year. So it's been really fascinating to see when I get when I get in that loop a little bit. I'm still that's a comfortable loop for me to get into. We talked to Teal about this too. Yes, right? You know, people stay stuck because it is more comfortable to stay stuck than it is to take a leap into the unknown, even if it's the thing that you know you want. Yes. That doesn't have to be any bigger than how you think about yourself every morning than you wake up, can completely reframe your entire life. For sure. I'm not discrediting that. I just think that for me, that is a theme that I have to keep revisiting to keep it relevant because it is easy to self-abandon when you're raising other humans. It for sure is. My personal experience with this is that for decades, my worth was tied to people that didn't deserve me. And I had wrapped my worth in that. And that is really the root of where my self-abandonment started. I can relate to that on a professional level. Right. I used to, I used to do that all the time. When you realize that the people who are supposed to love and trust and care and hold you the most in your life are the source of you treating yourself the way that you've learned to treat yourself. There's a big wake-up call that has to happen. You see this all the time where people will either become a product of their environment because monkey see monkey do. Yep. Or they become completely different because they have learned exactly who they do and who they do not want to be. Yes. And I am very thankful that my soul was on that journey and that was my path, was to become my own person in spite of all of it. Right. And again, this wasn't one big moment for me. This was a bunch of small moments in my life that added up to one big huge feeling of I'm not good enough. Yep. The real transformation for me happened in the small moments. It happened in the mundane, it happened in the the very quiet intention in every breath that I took, where I was like, no, this is me granting myself permission in the smallest of ways to just not wait. I don't have to wait for anybody or anything to be myself. When we talk about second chances and we talk about relaunching, there are a couple of emotional aspects of this that are going to happen no matter what. You're gonna have grief for the version of yourself that stayed too long in your mind in that situation. You're gonna have fear of repeating old cycles. You're gonna have doubt because that is the loudest, most familiar voice that's in your head. Then there's the alchemy, right? This is where the magic happens. This is when you stop punishing yourself for the past. And regret turns into awareness, and awareness turns into choice. And that choice happens every day in every little tiny moment. Yeah. And for our listeners, you know, it'll be interesting to see, like, because we have a wide variety of ages that listen to the podcast, but I do feel that term midlife crisis, like when you're in your 40s, right? Because we're expected to live to our 80s of this alchemy happening. It came out of people starting to question and get curious about wait, did I choose the right path? And do I have permission to take the other road or to maybe go back to the starting line and start again? I think too, what helps this to your point about either removing toxicity from your life, but also looking at what mentors and teachers you've had have influenced you, right? Because when I look back, I had a mother that she is very hands-on. She went to RISD and then she left RISD to go to the Connery Institute of America, and that's where she graduated from. But then she had a catering business when she had three small children. Then she decided to go back to school at 40 and graduate with a college degree and then a master's sumacum la day in her 40s. Not that that's unheard of, but I look at what my mom has accomplished. And then she started a career in banking at 45. I have so much admiration for her and appreciation now that I'm an entrepreneur, though it is no big crazy, like, wow, Rachel's an entrepreneur, because I'm falling in line of strong women entrepreneurs, but I didn't find my footing until a few years ago. And I certainly did not, though I had the pool, though I was getting very strong signs. Mine, my signs were not subtle, mine were very fucking intense. It still took me looking to mentors and teachers to help me stand in that place and feel comfortable. You're also one of them. And so our listeners are listening to us talk about our stories and our journeys. Maybe they're in their early 20s, and maybe this isn't something that like they're gonna do or possibly even consider for another 10, 15 years, which is like totally cool. And also just know that it's always available, like it's always an option. This is a good aspect to talk about because when you look back at your mother, she is not a chef, a potter, a banker. She's that's not who she is. She is Mary, and she is a woman of conviction and care. I mean, we could go on and on and on about how great your mother is because I hold her in great esteem and she has a very special place in my heart. I want for you to realize that through your awakening, you are not an intuitive healer. You are Rachel, this amazing person that has a huge capacity for love and for care and to also be hands-on and all of these things. It's not just who you are, it's an extension of the person that you're feeling inside and connecting with your soul that's coming out in this specific way. Right. For you right now, that's how it's coming out. And there's gonna be pieces of that that you hold on to forever, and there's gonna be pieces of that that you're like, okay, this doesn't serve me anymore. Yeah, I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna keep growing in this direction. And I think that it's really easy for people to listen to this and be like, oh, well, Rachel figured out her gifts. She talks to angels, and Kristen's figured out her gifts, and like she is creative and does all of these things. And it's like, no, those things aren't who we are. Just because if you're listening to this, maybe you haven't tapped into your gifts yet, or you're not writing a book or doing something that you feel like is big. Because I think people get lost in that. They think they have to do something that's big. Those things aren't who we are. Those are things that are happening and transforming as art, coming from us, realigning with our souls. It's what happens when you start to move through your life and start participating in it. Yeah. In a new way, where you're seeing things in color again, where you're noticing that, oh, I I want this for myself. You're noticing little life for yourself. You're laughing without checking in whether it's allowed or not. For sure. It made me think of what you just said, it made me think of that show in Living Color. No, that was a comedy show of like different skits. But I think when you when you live in the different colors of the rainbow and you stand in that. I hear what you're saying, but I'm also like, but I am those things too. But I understand what you're saying as far as these are just extensions of of who Rachel's soul is in this human experience. And that's really where I would just ask people, ask our listeners to ask themselves, are you living authentically? Are you living your authentic life? But what does that mean? Because I think some people will be like, I don't even know, I don't even know what that is. What is my authentic life? Because they're like, okay, I'm doing this and I'm in, like, I'm full in. That doesn't necessarily mean that they feel passion for it or that absolutely. I think that's where they would have to explore because I think it's different for everybody. And I think that when you start looking at whatever it is, is it the relationship? Is it the career? Is it where you're living? Is it where you're going to school, what you're studying? Like there's so many different aspects. And they don't all have to necessarily be this authentic thing. Sometimes we just have to do certain things because that's what's required of us living in this society we live in, right? Like paying taxes and going to the grocery store. Most people can't farm their own food. So if they're like, I'm not living my authentic life because I don't own a farm and I'm not self-sufficient, okay, fair. And also, where are you living authentically? And then you can start to identify areas that if you're not standing in that, if you're not honoring yourself in a certain way, what changes can you make in that regard? It's subtle changes. It's not like a big sudden thing. Like we're not saying go buy a farm, though that's your calling to go buy a zoo. I know there's a movie about that too. Like we went and bought a zoo. So, like, I think living authentically, the definition for me is waking up and being excited to take on the day. If you're excited to take on the day, then some part of your life is living authentically. I would agree with that. And I would also add, living authentically is actually being honest with yourself about who you are and the fact that you have created the life that you're living right now. For better, for worse, every reaction, interaction, everything that you are experiencing is because of you. And that is not for you to take fault out of, that is for you to gain power out of. Yes. If you're living in victim mode where everything is somebody else's fault, and you hear that, and that feels like I'm attacking you, I think there's space for you to get realigned with your own power and stand in your own power instead of giving it away to everybody. We have this really beautiful opportunity to live this human experience. Why not re-enchant ourselves and allow ourselves to feel that magic every day? Yeah. Whatever, because magic for you and I might not be magic for somebody else. Like as different as we are, we have things that feel magical to us that are very much the same. But not everybody feels magic in the same spots. Yeah. And being authentic is identifying where life feels magic for you. And this is also, I think you have a people-pleasing aspect of things, you have a boundary setting aspect of this. You know, when you start this work, it can feel lonely. A lot of people won't understand if they're in your inner circle. Now, the people that have been with you the longest and like know you, like truly deeply know you, will get it. Right, right. They'll get it. People that immediately question or undermine or gaslight you, bing, bing, bing, red flag, those are the people that you're just gonna need to establish boundaries with. And boundaries don't have to be permanent. You they could come back around, you know what I mean? Like I always feel like there are people that have come into my life that when I when I decided to like up and quit my job, even prior to that, I had started doing work on aligning myself with the right audience. I don't want to say audience, that's the that's the wrong word. It's not like I'm putting on a show, but support. Yeah, there was just there was definitely because I am so vocal and so open, like I'm an open book. I that to me was I would say easy because I would just be like, this is what I'm gonna do, and I don't know what's gonna happen, and I don't know what the future holds, but I know that I'm honoring this feeling in me, this this this tugging and this need to do this. A lot of it was like simple for me because like I was like, I just accepted it when people were like, either that's weird, I don't get it, or you're defying God and blah blah blah blah blah. And I was like, It's cool. Bye, bye. Well, I didn't have like any kind of malice. I was just like, it doesn't have to be your thing. I think that there is a uh there's a space when you start to feel aligned where friction, the things that no longer match your energy start to fall away from your life. Yeah. But also the caveat here is that it is important not to live in an echo chamber of what you want to hear from other people. Oh, yeah. So there is a difference in supporting yourself with people who are like, hell yeah, and people who are just gonna say yes to you. If you want to watch somebody fall from authenticity real fucking quick, that's a real good way to do it. You see it happen with celebrities. I was privy to seeing that happen in real life, and you lose complete touch with anything that's outside of your immediate circle. While things are meant to fall away that are not meant for you, if you're not Hearing anything at all that's making you self-aware or question what you're doing in some way and reevaluate and be like, okay, is this truly for me? Yes. Then you might not be surrounding yourself with the right people. No, for sure. There is definitely a balance there. Right. And again, that's where you just really need to, because you're going to have people that say they're in your inner circle that question what you're doing in a healthy way. And then you also have to be able to navigate what comes out of those discussions or that work and still make a decision. And you can surround yourself with people who are going to question you and be like, okay, like, have you thought that through a hundred percent? What about this? When you have people that truly care, you're gonna, yeah, you're gonna be more accepting, obviously. Yeah. But I think it's important also to have those people. And at the same time, when you can have those kind of conversations with people in your life that you love and care for, and you can A, feel like you don't have to over-explain your boundaries, and B trust your no as much as you trust your yes. I mean, shit. I think that right there is probably one of the strongest key takeaways. And the reason it has to be a mix is because you can't always stand in your yes. You can't always stand in your no. And really, the space that you need to be in is in a state of flow because that is how energy works. If you take this down to basic science, in addition to like what we know spiritually, energy flows. You have to be in a state of flow with your life. I think when you get there, it doesn't actually really matter what choices you make. It just matters that you are in flow with what feels good. Yeah. Because it's all gonna come out in the wash. For so long, we sit here and we wait for permission to begin or to begin again or to try something new. And a lot of this work when we talk about relaunching our lives is not about becoming someone else. It's not about stepping into a role that we see somebody else doing something, and we're like, oh, I'm gonna step into that role. It's not possible. This is about remembering who you are, following your own path. Yes, and allowing the loudness of the world to fall away while still remembering that you have an infrastructure that you have to exist within. Yes. Unless you want to go, you know, live in the wilds, but like I hope that this episode in particular reaches a lot of young folks because I think that they are inundated so hard with what looks authentic but what isn't authentic. And you're starting to see this more and more. I think social media influencers who aren't standing in their authentic power, though they feel that they are, the emotional and mental overload is too much. I hope that this episode reaches those younger listeners because they still have the ability to reinvent themselves while also taking into account those pieces of maybe things that they really enjoy and they like, but doing it in a more creative way. Like our daughters are guilty of this. Let's do these TikTok dances. And then no, they don't post them online, but I'm also like, I tell Emmy all the time, I'm like, you can come up with your own dances. I know that you love to watch them and see them and do these things, but like you're perfectly capable of coming up with your own funny videos that you can think of. That's how these things they they go viral, right? So I think that this generation, this younger generation, has a tougher time figuring out what is their authentic path when they're inundated all the time of it's different than we were. You know, when we were like, oh, I want to be famous, I want to be like Tiffany Amber Thiessen or Jenny Garth. And you know, you see these shows where it's like you want to be this actress, and now it's like you want to be a social media influencer that does makeup tutorials, and it's a wild place out there. I know we'll do all right with our kids because we'll help coach them and guide them and let them figure themselves out, but like I worry about that. I don't know. I see what you're saying a hundred percent, but as somebody who is currently an educator in the space with high schoolers, and I watch and I have really good connection with Charlie's students as well. That's not what we're seeing from these kids. We're seeing kids that are more fully embodied in who they are and what they want in life. I had a one of his students when we were on a band trip two years ago and he was a senior, come to me to want to have a spiritual conversation with me and have like talk about manifestation. And these kids are so much more aware. I think that both adults and kids that are lost in some way, I use that word loosely, yeah, that think they're lost in some way, are going to allow themselves to go down whatever path of lost is convenient to them or adjacent to them at the time. And that might be social media and it might be something completely different. Yeah. It's the awareness of just listening to themselves more than anything that's the most important because what we're seeing are like really great kids who are so much more aware than we ever were at that age and can have conversations with adults that have been through decades of healing, yeah, and have a more enlightened approach. Where I'm like, holy shit, where are these kids coming from? They're going to school for things that matter to them. Yeah. We're seeing this graduating class now, and I'm like, this is incredible. These kids that know, and I think Kira, our audio engineer, is also a testament to this. Like, she knows who she is, she knows what's important to her, her values run deep, and she is just an incredible human with amazing thoughts, amazing ideas, and amazing heart. Yeah. I think there is a misnomer because of the media that today's kids are lazy. They're only consumed with social media, they're this, that, and the other. But the kids that we're seeing, they might have Instagram accounts, but they hardly ever post on them. Yeah. They are hanging out with friends and creating content for their band page and whatever. So, like, it's not to say that those people don't exist. Yeah. You know, there probably is a generation in there that really did feel like this is all that was there for them was this social media because it was taking over everything. But what we're seeing now with these kids is something quite different and makes me really, really hopeful for our future because they are so much more enlightened than we ever were. And they care more about the people around them, the planet, and the choices that they're making for the right reasons. Yeah, that's good. It is good, it makes me very happy. And I'm glad that I'm in a space to be able to see that and to witness that and to share that with other people who aren't spending time necessarily with other kids or whatever. Like it's very cool. It's a very cool thing. I'm glad to hear that. Yeah, there are people that feel like drawn to social media, like this is the only thing. But again, to the point, if you're gonna be on a path to ooze yourself, you're gonna find a way to do it, whether it's through social media or something else. No, for sure. And I think that's where like you just think when you do your standing in your authentic self, is if the internet went away, would the work that you're doing still be relevant? And if the answer is no, you're not on your authentic path. I mean, if the internet went away, you and I would still continue to do what we do and just find a different way. Yep. We would host workshops and we would do whatever, like it would just be different. Yep. But we would still continue this. Yeah, exactly. Like this is the work. And from someone who's pivoted their career from something that wasn't aligned, I feel so strongly saying that. Right. Not to say that you have to have a different career and then pivot. You don't. Some people are very gifted at finding that path the first time and being like, let's go. Some people, the way that their birth charts, their natal charts are aligned, their job is simply a job. Their job has nothing to do with their passion or their identity. And that is the case for a lot of people. And they go and they're like, I'm happy doing this job. And then they're it's outside of that. It's when I was working at a mortgage company and I was spending 65 hours a week, and I was like, this is not aligned. This does not, I don't give a shit about mortgages. Learning about mortgages, the ins and outs of mortgages. I was like, I can't be doing this for the next 10, 15 years, even if it does mean bringing in a paycheck. It is really cool to see how things are changing, though, because if you remember when we were growing up, everybody, when you would turn 40, they would throw an over the hill party and everything was black and over the hill and blah blah blah. Oh, yeah, black and gold. And that was like such a thing. And the midlife crisis that you talked about earlier was such a which I hate that term. I hate that term. I do too. It was guys buying sports cars and having affairs with young girls, and that's how they showed that, portrayed that in the 90s. That has continued to change and evolve. And now you're seeing it as women, like specifically millennial women, who thought that they had to get married and have kids by 30. They had to have a career, they had to have a white picket fence and 2.5 bathrooms and all of the things, yeah, are now waking up and saying that none of that was for me. None of that was for me. That was for somebody else. Yep. And they're finding awareness. And some people are moved through that journey, and other people are just now waking up and being like, this isn't, this life doesn't feel like mine. Yeah. And no matter where you're at in your journey, you're in the right space. Yeah. You were meant for this. Yep. And so I would like everybody listening or watching to take a quiet moment with me and place your hand over your heart. And I just want you to say, I am allowed to begin again as many times as I need. I am allowed to begin again as many times as I need. Rachel, did you notice what we were both holding throughout? Uh look at that. How like this is a really, really good stone for connecting to yourself, for alleviating stress. Sometimes it's used in both the crown chakra and the root shocker work, even though it's a white stone that has like gray threads through it. And it's also really good for helping like overactive minds, anxiety. I really like it because it is a stone of perspective. Yep. This is one of the ones that Naisha recommended for sure because it also like represents your life and the challenges and how you can overcome. So, like how there's like more joy than there is sorrow or whatever the two dichotomy emotions are that you want to associate, and that both can be present at the same time and goes back to choices and what have you. But it's one of my favorite stones. It resonates very strongly with me. Yeah. Well, guys, we thank you so much for being here with us. I hope that some piece of this resonated for you and you feel more secure in following your own life path and living your own version of joy. Yes. I second what Kristen said. You are a remarkable human on this planet for a purpose. You are also the only person in your life that can make the changes that need to be made to align yourself to that path. So it's not becoming somebody different than you already are, but if you're feeling that tug, if you're feeling that pull, you are capable and also responsible for allowing the energy to come in to make those changes. So stand in whatever power that feels for you, in whatever capacity you have to give to it, and allow that energy to flow through you and within you for those moments to take place. And when you give yourself that opportunity, you will feel and see and know change. I just got a message that somebody is in need of a deep energy clearing in their home. So until next time, thank you for being present with us. As always, we are available on every social media platform there is Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn, find our profile, like, subscribe, follow. All of those actions do help the algorithm. They help us to get out, get seen. All of our episodes and the work we are doing is for the collective. 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